I LOVE YOU AND YOUR SOUL TOO!
Mallika M. Accountant
If you love someone, you will never do him wrong; to love, then, is to obey the whole Law (Rom.13:10). Many of us may have fallen in love. True love means to care for the one whom we love more than our own life, just as our Lord Jesus Christ loved us. Will any of you want to do any harm to the person you love? No, never! While crossing the road with you, if your beloved is about to meet with an accident, will you not try your very best to save him/her? Of course, yes; you will not care for your own life, but try your very best to save the one you love truly. As Christians, then, we have a greater responsibility towards the one whom we love. I would like to discuss about the love that gets us into trouble and pain, and, very importantly, may drift us away from our God.
In Love With A Non-believer?
Be wise in the way you act towards those who are not believers, making good use of every opportunity you have (Col. 4:5).
We Christians come across non-believers all the time. Sometimes such interactions result in love. Falling in love with a non-believer and marrying a non-believer are two different things. I will explain how. Unknowingly or knowingly, Christians fall in love with non-believers. It may happen in college, workplace, neighbourhood or any other place. In love, we give gifts, shower compliments and try our very best to impress, make happy and care for our beloved. But, a Christian has to go one step further with one's non-Christian beloved and that is to care for the non-believer's soul.
We know John 3:16 that states, "For God loved the world so much that He gave His only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him may not die, but have eternal life." So, will you not want to save the soul of your beloved? Will you not want to share the good news with your beloved so that maybe he/she happily and willingly accepts the Lord Jesus in his/her life and saves his/her soul from eternal destruction? If you truly love your non-Christian beloved, you will surely share the Gospel of our Lord Jesus with him/her. You will not feel shy or feel the fear of rejection because your only aim is the well-being of your beloved.
It may also happen that your non-Christian beloved may not accept the Good News and reject you. In such a case, it is not wise to carry on. But keep praying for that person and, at the same time, you have to move further and not cry over the whole matter as to why you shared the Good News with your beloved that you lost him/her. Then you will be sinning against our Lord and He will be very unhappy with you. But, on the other hand, if you put your full trust in our Lord and move on further optimistically, then our Lord Jesus will surely bless you abundantly (Rom.8:28-30). You may feel sad, and tears may flow. But those tears will be of contentment that you have pleased our Lord and truly loved your beloved. Therefore, a Christian who has fallen in love with a non-believer must marry him/her only if he/she willingly accepts the Lord Jesus in his/her own life and becomes a Christian.
Love is not…selfish…; love is not happy with evil, but is happy with the truth (1Cor.13: 5-6).
Sometimes it may happen that Christians fall in love with the wrong people. The person you have fallen for may turn out to be married, and you may feel it hard to come out of such a relationship. Then you must remember the verses (Matt.5:27-28, Heb.13:4), which very strongly condemn a person committing adultery. Will you want your already married beloved to suffer the consequences of this sin? Will you want that person to go away from God and in the process will you sin against God?
Our Lord Jesus has taught us to deny self, carry one's cross and follow Him (Mk.8:34). Therefore, we should never be selfish. Only because you don't want to lose your beloved, if you make your beloved commit adultery and you also sin in the process it means you are just being selfish and ruining your own and your beloved's life too. A Christian should very well know that sins never go unpunished by our God. True love is not acquiring the person whom you love by hook or by crook, but doing the best for your beloved so that both of you remain righteous in the sight of our Lord. And in this way you can receive showers of blessings from our Righteous Judge. So, those extra-marital affairs should come to an end.
If someone happens to fall in love with a non-believer or a married person and say, "I love you," remember to add, "I love your soul too," because this statement will ignite in you the love of our Lord Jesus Christ and guide you in the right way.